Today while traveling to office in a public bus, there was a scene which is very common in chennai. There was a girl (pretty and good looking) and a guy (not so good looking, but we will come to that later), who were sitting together in the left side seat of the bus.
To people from other cities, you should know that in Chennai, all seats on the left side of the bus is for ladies and the right side is for the general public. So, this guy was sitting in the ladies seat and the couple didn’t know that, as they were from some northern state. The conductor and a lady were telling the guy to get up and give up the seat. The conversation that followed was something like this:
Girl: See, we both are together, can you please allow us to sit?
Lady: Its ok. I can see that you two are together, but this is ladies seat and it is normal for asking guys sitting here to get up.
Girl: Oh. Why don’t you ask the guy who is sitting before us? He too is sitting in the ladies seat right?
I was expecting this to become a huge problem as that is what happens when you give replies like that, but luckily that lady was kind enough to leave the matter and find another seat and the guy too got up to give the seat to an old woman.
The problem all starts with the seat allocation. What is the need for such kind of discrimination in the seats? What is wrong if two people who know each other sit together in some seat. As long as no one is disturbing a girl sitting alone, there won’t be any problem. Instead some ladies used to say “It is written as ladies seat. So you shouldn’t sit here. If you guys can’t find a seat to sit, then go to hell”.
Yes. It is written on the window pane that it is for Ladies only. But unfortunately all you would see is something like this “மகளிர்” which is in Tamil and most of these problems are caused by people who come from other states who can’t read the local language.
I agree that the state government of Tamil Nadu is trying to protect the ancient language and isn’t destroyed by the influence of the western languages. But in places where you need to give some kind of information to people from various parts of the world, it is just plain foolishness if you say “I won’t use any other language other than my mother tongue”.
It just has a simple solution - have both languages (Tamil and English) in places where you want to give important information to the public. You can’t risk other people’s lives if you use the Tamil equivalent of “Exit“.
There are some people who are die hard tamil fans, who won’t speak any other language. And to them all the world can say is “we don’t care”. They should note that it is they who need the world and that the world can learn to survive without Tamil. Languages are like humans. They need to evolve themselves when required - else it all leads to extinction. I think it can be discussed as a seperate essay by itself.
So, what do you think? Should there be a seperate row of seats for ladies? Do any other place have such weird customs in India?
PS: About the pretty-girl and not-so-good-looking-boy, I was wondering “If all pretty girls hang out only with the not-so-good-looking guys, then what will the remaining guys like me do?”